When we adopted our oldest son, we didn't have wait.
Before we were ever approved by the state, we were called, matched and the I-guy was born 24 hours later. It was a whirlwind, but there was no waiting.
This past February, we were called and accepted a match with a new birth mom. The original due date was only 3 weeks away, but an ultrasound pushed that date back 6 weeks.
So we waited. WAITING IS HARD.
And in the waiting, here are some things that we did.
We set up a crib.
We bought a double stroller.
We started requesting formula samples.
We bought one package of tiny diapers.
We started talking with the I-guy about "Baby Brother". (For the record, I-guy kept insisting it was a "baby sister").
We washed some newborn clothing and sanitized bottles..
We prayed for Birth Mom and new baby like crazy.
WAITING IS HARD.
There were also some things we very consciously did not do.
We did not choose a name.
We did not take the tags off or wash the new "baby brother" onesie that we were given.
We (meaning I, Liz) had some trouble sleeping.
We did not totally believe this baby we were matched with was ever going to come to live in our.
Don't take our disbelief as lack of faith. We knew God was going to add an amazing chapter to our story through this second adoption. We just didn't know exactly what it look like.
When you enter the waiting period as a matched family, the words "cautious optimism" are pushed at you and truly that is how we lived for the 8 weeks or so, that we were waiting.
WAITING IS HARD!
It is a strange sort of edge to live on, knowing that any moment you could receive a phone call that could change your life. There are countless scenarios that run through your mind.
They could tell you baby is born, healthy and you should come and get it. Baby could be born with severe medical or developmental needs. Birth mom could have changed her mind. Birth mom wants to meet you at the hospital. Birth mom does not want to meet you. Birth dad is putting up a fight about the adoption. Etc. . . Etc. . . Etc. . .
WAITING IS HARD!
Waiting IS hard. . .
But totally worth it.
Before we were ever approved by the state, we were called, matched and the I-guy was born 24 hours later. It was a whirlwind, but there was no waiting.
This past February, we were called and accepted a match with a new birth mom. The original due date was only 3 weeks away, but an ultrasound pushed that date back 6 weeks.
So we waited. WAITING IS HARD.
And in the waiting, here are some things that we did.
We set up a crib.
We bought a double stroller.
We started requesting formula samples.
We bought one package of tiny diapers.
We started talking with the I-guy about "Baby Brother". (For the record, I-guy kept insisting it was a "baby sister").
We washed some newborn clothing and sanitized bottles..
We prayed for Birth Mom and new baby like crazy.
WAITING IS HARD.
There were also some things we very consciously did not do.
We did not choose a name.
We did not take the tags off or wash the new "baby brother" onesie that we were given.
We (meaning I, Liz) had some trouble sleeping.
We did not totally believe this baby we were matched with was ever going to come to live in our.
Don't take our disbelief as lack of faith. We knew God was going to add an amazing chapter to our story through this second adoption. We just didn't know exactly what it look like.
When you enter the waiting period as a matched family, the words "cautious optimism" are pushed at you and truly that is how we lived for the 8 weeks or so, that we were waiting.
WAITING IS HARD!
It is a strange sort of edge to live on, knowing that any moment you could receive a phone call that could change your life. There are countless scenarios that run through your mind.
They could tell you baby is born, healthy and you should come and get it. Baby could be born with severe medical or developmental needs. Birth mom could have changed her mind. Birth mom wants to meet you at the hospital. Birth mom does not want to meet you. Birth dad is putting up a fight about the adoption. Etc. . . Etc. . . Etc. . .
WAITING IS HARD!
Waiting IS hard. . .
But totally worth it.
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