After a long blogging hiatus, I have been inspired by a couple of other posts (check out the videos here and here) to compile my own list of the ridiculous questions and comments We have received about Little Man and adoption.
1. From an older woman at the Farmer's Market:
"We adopted one of those . . . aren't they so smart!"
She was old . . . I just walked away.
2. From a perfect stranger I met at a friend's house. (Note: she was talking directly to my 7 month old who looked like the picture above)
"Oh, why do you have to wear a helmet? Did someone neglect you in your crib when you were little?"
Yeah.
3. "Why did you adopt? Why don't you and your husband just get on it?"
We do, don't you worry about that.
4. "He is going to be the whitest black kid ever"
We have heard a version of this many times. I never know how to respond.
5. Any joke about calling CPS.
It is just wrong. Believe me, we have been screened, probed, examined, and interrogated and have been deemed worthy to be Little Man's parents.
For the record, it is also inappropriate to ask how much he cost, do we want to have "kids of our own", or to ask when we are going to tell him he is adopted.
But please, do ask about his adoption. We love to tell the story (blogged here and here) and share about our excitement and passion for adoption. We also are pretty open about our infertility struggles, so you can ask about that as well. We know God has given us our story and Little Man and we are praying for more Little Men or Women to join our family in the future.
We are figuring out this parenting thing one day at a time, just like ALL other first time parents, and, for the record, we wouldn't trade our Little Man for the world.
1. From an older woman at the Farmer's Market:
"We adopted one of those . . . aren't they so smart!"
She was old . . . I just walked away.
2. From a perfect stranger I met at a friend's house. (Note: she was talking directly to my 7 month old who looked like the picture above)
"Oh, why do you have to wear a helmet? Did someone neglect you in your crib when you were little?"
Yeah.
3. "Why did you adopt? Why don't you and your husband just get on it?"
We do, don't you worry about that.
4. "He is going to be the whitest black kid ever"
We have heard a version of this many times. I never know how to respond.
5. Any joke about calling CPS.
It is just wrong. Believe me, we have been screened, probed, examined, and interrogated and have been deemed worthy to be Little Man's parents.
For the record, it is also inappropriate to ask how much he cost, do we want to have "kids of our own", or to ask when we are going to tell him he is adopted.
But please, do ask about his adoption. We love to tell the story (blogged here and here) and share about our excitement and passion for adoption. We also are pretty open about our infertility struggles, so you can ask about that as well. We know God has given us our story and Little Man and we are praying for more Little Men or Women to join our family in the future.
We are figuring out this parenting thing one day at a time, just like ALL other first time parents, and, for the record, we wouldn't trade our Little Man for the world.
